If you find yourself treating the trans-men-in-womens-sports thing as a real position, you're missing the point.
Something I've appreciated about Jesse Kelly on Twitter is that he, perhaps more than anyone, regularly recognizes that the ostensible purpose of the fight is not the real purpose of the fight. They are not masking your children because they are worried about the spread of COVID in schools, for example. That's just what they say. Really, they are masking your children as training in compliance and safetyism. Many such examples.